I was a family lawyer and Judge for over 25 years and then re-qualified as a coach.
I saw how tough it can be to go through the legal process without someone fully qualified and independent to support you through the emotional states of separation and divorce. It was very clear to me when I was a Judge that the people who struggled most with getting to a quick, cost-effective and consensual resolution of their dispute were those who didn’t have the support to deal with the emotional aspect of the dispute.
Giving that support was my strength and I decided to to leave the law to concentrate on helping people that way. I have to say it was for my own benefit too as I get huge pleasure from seeing people come to the end of their coaching programme in a much better position than when they started.
I know the family legal system inside out and I am now also fully trained to support you in the emotional and psychological aspects of your family disputes. I leave the legal advice to the lawyers and focus on supporting you to deal with the practical and emotional fallout of your family conflict.
I love to spend time really listening to people’s stories and helping them create better new ones. I have reinvented my own life after a very difficult few years of illness and can help you do the same.
Outside of work I am a writer and my graffiti inspired art has been exhibited worldwide. I love to read, bake and travel. I am a very bad golfer! I am based in Merseyside.
The first thing that I will do is really listen to you. It is important that you get to tell your story and that I understand what your situation and your needs are. I may ask questions to help you see that story in a wider perspective and will help you see that that you situation is not hopeless.
Then my role is to help you move forward in your life. I do not tell you what to do and you are completely in charge of your decision making, including if you wish to reconcile with your partner. I work on the basis that you can make good choices but may need some help to see your options, envision a different future and to work out a practical plan to get there. I will ask questions that will make you think and may well be challenging to you ( but in a kind and helpful way!) I can help you with skills which may help you to get through the legal or mediation process more easily. For example you may benefit from discussing matters such as
At present my work is done online via Zoom which you can download and use for free via any computer, tablet or smartphone.
Please note that if you are about to start or are currently in the legal process, I will only work with clients who are currently using a lawyer or mediator. If your legal process has completely concluded I can work with you even though you are no longer using a lawyer or mediator.
If you are going to turn someone to help you in a difficult time you need to be assured that they are both qualified and experienced. So here is some information about me that can help you decide if I am the right person for you. I am :
I will talk to you for free and entirely without any obligation before we work together. I work in sets of six sessions for coaching to allow you to see progress and put your plans into action. You can choose sessions of one hour or of ninety minutes duration. a set of six hourly sessions cost £900 and a set of six ninety minute sessions cost £1350.
The sessions are on Zoom which means you do not need to take time to travel to see me. You should feel free to make yourself comfortable with a cup of coffee and a biscuit while you talk to me if you like! Having a pen and paper handy is a good idea so you can take notes.
If I don’t think that my services are right for you or if my lists are full I will try to refer you to someone more suitable.
Payment for the set of sessions is in advance and you can pay with a debit or credit card via a website link I will send you. I do not offer refunds once the coaching has started. Sessions must usually be completed within twelve months. I have an online booking system and you can choose your own appointments and rearrange them via my calendar. Most of my appointments are during the day but I have limited number of early evening slots, although they tend to go quickly. I currently see clients every other week and so we will speak either fortnight or monthly as you choose.
If you are a coaching client (rather than if you are having only a one off emotional readiness session) you will get my contact details and if something arises that cannot wait until our next session you will be able to send messages to me between sessions at no extra cost. If I can deal with your message quickly I will respond as soon as I am able. Please bear in mind, however, that I might be with other clients and not able to respond immediately and also that I never answer messages on Friday afternoons or on Saturdays. If it requires a longer discussion I will suggest we carry it forward to your next session, that we bring our next session forward if possible or you may wish to book a short extra session. I very much encourage clients to email text or Whats App me if you have good news to share and celebrate between sessions!
You may either email me or arrange a free 30 minute talk by clicking on the boxes below. That will allow me to check that I offer what you need and that I have availability to take you as a client. It also allows you to decide whether you wish to work with me. there will be no sales pressure on you at that meeting. I look forward to speaking with you or reading your message!
I do not give legal advice or help you conduct court proceedings. I do not offer services as a McKenzie friend. I am not a therapist.