Lawyers, do you want to manage stress, make changes or develop your personal and professional soft skills? If so, let's talk!
Lawyers are human too. You are expected to perform as if nothing touches you and to appear confident and competent at all times. But the reality is different. Practising law takes you through a full range of thoughts and emotions both positive and negative. How are you feeling today?
Traditionally the profession has not been good at acknowledging these feelings and meeting the needs they create. There is much talk about 'wellbeing' but few people empowering you to actually make your life better. Instead, lawyers struggle on alone in silence.
It is my purpose to change that.
About Helen L. Conway
I experienced all of these emotions in my work as a former solicitor and barrister specialising in family law and as a full-time District Judge in the Family Court, County Court and Court of Protection for over 10 years.
I learned that wellbeing is not just the absence of the stress-induced illness that plagues the profession. It is the positive state of having enough of all that you need, physically, intellectually and emotionally. It includes feeling supported, resilient, fulfilled, and happy at work. It is about having a sense of meaning, purpose, and balance. It is also about having sufficient personal time to enjoy life with family and friends, to engage in sustaining activities and to recuperate.
Having experienced what it is like to be depleted of all these positives and having suffered the consequences, I spent several years learning how wellbeing is really achieved and sustained. Having now achieved it in my own life, my purpose is to share what I learned with you so that you can create your own sense of wellbeing.
As a qualified coach, trained mindfulness teacher and associate at JSA Psychology, I combine my legal experience and my psychology knowledge to empower others to create and sustain a genuine sense of wellbeing at work and in their personal lives
You can read more about on my About page..
I focus on four common needs:
I do this by offering three types of service:
One to one
Family Law Supervision
An ongoing relationship providing professional support and one to one continual professional development to family lawyers
One to one coaching
Support for you if you need to make changes in your life, have a goal to achieve or find yourself at a transition point such as stepping up into leadership, job change or return to work. I also work with clients wishing to work on passion projects to bring balance and pleasure into their lives.
Bespoke in house courses, online teaching and keynote speaking for conference providers
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