When my Father hit seventy the family took him to Berlin as a special treat. We booked a fabulous hotel, gave him the guidebook and told him that when we got there he had complete control over what we did. His trip. His choice. We forgot that my Dad has many good characteristics, but the ability to plan is not one of them. After two…
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Will you know when you reach enough?
Jim Carrey recently announced his retirement from acting. At the same time he released a short film about his love of painting called I Needed Colour in which he speaks about the importance of art in his life. (See the firm embedded below.) In an interview about his decision to step back from the film world he said: “I really like my quiet life, and I really…
Why our strengths can stop us even starting.
(And five ways to overcome the block) It was a great idea. I was going to write a series of funny, engaging blogs about the similarities and differences between law and art, between being a Judge and a creative person who now coaches both lawyers and artists and makes my own work. There was a ton of interesting ideas in my head and it was…
How to beat Imposter Syndrome
Do you feel that you don’t really belong in the world in which you work? Do you lack confidence and feel like an, imposter only pretending to be professional? Do you feel you are not entitled to have your job title or the recognition you have achieved even though you enjoy your work and have formal qualifications? I’ve never met a lawyer yet who hasn’t…
How to cope with the feeling of languishing
Languishing is the topic of the moment. Psychologist Adam Grant wrote an article about it for the New York Times back in May 2021 and since then his ideas have gone viral with any number of publications recycling his comments. It hit a nerve because the term ‘languishing’ explains perfectly the ‘meh’ feeling that so many people around the world have as the pandemic lingers….
How easy should excellent work be? (Clue: Easier than you think.)
Mr Carson* was my second-year chemistry teacher. My sister remembers him for his dandruff ridden comb-over and predilection for taking the eighteen year old male sixth formers to the Abbey pub at lunchtimes. I remember him as the man who unfairly ruined my Effort Card. Every term we were sent home from school with a two-columned card on which every teacher had given us two…
Finding interest in the boredom of lockdown
I have a pair of full length caramel leather boots that are mocking me. They are flopped over in my porch next to the shoe cabinet they don’t fit in. Of course, I don’t see them often because the front door is only used now for Tesco and DPD deliveries. Because my husband’s study is a flight of stairs nearer the door than my office…
Are you there yet? How to get the benefits of a holiday from your home.
HOLIDAY [ Hol-li-day] any day of exemption from work EXEMPT [ig–zempt] to free from an obligation or liability to which others are subject; release: – Dictionary.com I live just at the edge of my town, my road running off a lane that starts with a school and church and peters out to fields with horses and rabbits. Every now and again my Mum will be in the car…
How to stop your inadequacy button being pressed.
This morning I was happily listening to a podcast when the writer being interviewed said something that pushed right on my Inadequacy Button. He was being asked about his writing process. He was a night writer, he explained, because, although he got up at 5 am and had a little time to read contemplative material and mediate over breakfast, the youngest of his five children…
The real gift of 2020
My coach took me through an exercise last month in which he asked me to write down a memory for every year of my life. The first interesting observation that cropped up was that the supposedly best years of my career, the nineties ,ended up blank. These were my years at the Bar and conference speaking, the ones which set me up for the judiciary…